October 30th, 2009 at 10:26 am
Anger, he suggests results from our efforts manage disappointment and our thwarted desires. It stems from a feeling of disempowerment and becoming angry re-empowers us. Kellerman writes,
When a person feels disempowered, frequently the only way to feel re-empowered is to be angry. And we all want to be empowered. Yes, anger is a re-empowerment, because like any other primary emotion, anger has a personality, and it is this personality that tells the story.
In the first post, Kellerman outlines seven personality traits of anger (“Anger has explosive potential. It wants to burst forth.” “Anger has an entitled frame of mind. It feels it has the right to get tough,” etc.) Of course, when anger is repressed a symptom emerges and in his second post, Kellerman explores how to cure the symptom. Kellerman outlines some of the steps:
5. The key to unlocking your symptom is to take it on faith that when you have a psychological/emotional symptom you are harboring repressed anger and by definition since it is repressed, you can’t feel it and therefore you’re not aware of it. BUT BELIEVE IT, IT’S THERE.
6. Therefore, you need to become a bit of a detective and try to identify the ‘who’ who pissed you off – who shot down your wish, and who therefore made you angry.
7. When you identify the ‘who’ and begin to feel the anger toward the ‘who,’ your symptom will in every likelihood, lift.
8. To reinforce the cure of the symptom it is usually very helpful to also do something related to the original wish although not necessarily in a way that will get the wish gratified. Just do something related to it.